Thank you for all your comments! Yes, renting a couple of times first is probably the soundest thing to do. Buying a non-golf development property is certainly also an option; as you said you can still be very close to the courses. The attractiveness of the golf dev’t alternative, apart from being right next to the courses, would be that you have other facilities on site for both non golfers and the children, but I guess that is the case for many other options as well. In my experience the clientele at a golf dev’t is a litte less boozy party people than in some other areas, but perhaps I’m wrong here! I base this on non-Spanish experiences.
Renting and driving around to check out a few different types of alternatives is probably the way to go. It is easy to get carried away!